Closure. No such thing.

I was discussing this with a very dear friend. We always hear that this or that person needs 'closure' for some tragedy that occurred. Let me clue you in. It is never closed. Short of some horrific accident or episode that causes you to lose your memory, whatever the event is, will ALWAYS be with you. It will crop up when you least expect it. A sound or a smell will trigger a switch in your subconscious, and the memories, as well as the feelings associated with them, will come crashing in on you. The real issue is how you deal with them. For myself, the best way is to face them head-on, and move TOWARD them. Not to run away. Not to try and bury them all over. Instead, look at them in the full light of day. See them for what they are. Memories of something past that you survived. Pray for strength to face them. God will hold you up.